Why, yes, as a matter of fact, I WAS raised in a barn ...

If your birth year falls anywhere near mine, you probably heard your parents say at least once, “Shut the door, were you raised in a barn?”  Grown-ups saw it as a clever way to grab a child’s attention; however, the question never had its full effect on me as a reprimand because one of my favorite places in the whole WORLD was a barn, a big gray wonder situated in the middle of the corral on our farm.

It wasn’t always gray and weathered, of course.  Before I was old enough to be aware of its existence, it was a proper barn-red hue, with a shiny tin roof.  Or maybe the roof was originally composed of green shingles.  Or wood.  Sadly, there’s no one left to ask about the details.  I’m the eldest sibling, and everyone above me is gone.

The barn had two stories and a tall peaked roof, and the ground floor was lined with pens and milking stalls, along with two store rooms for tack and supplies.  The top level was usually stacked floor to ceiling with fragrant hay bales – green rectangles of alfalfa lightweight enough for enterprising farm kids to rearrange into forts.  That loft was also where nearly all new batches of baby kittens were to be found.  

My grandma told me stories of when the barn was new and the loft floor solid and grand.  She and Grandpa held barn dances there which the neighbors clamored to attend.  The mental image could keep me occupied for days …

Recently a friend posted a link to an essay by Michael Sims, published in The New York Times Sunday Book Review, about that pseudo-children’s book Charlotte’s Web.   (It’s a book for grown-up types and we all know it!)  As I read Mr. Sims’ essay, my mind snagged on a single line and wouldn’t turn loose, 

" … the barn’s handmade stanchions and hoof-scarred planking ..."

Every inch of “my” barn was handmade by my grandpa and uncle and dad, and its stanchions and hoof-scarred planking are in my DNA.  That graying expanse, with its sweet hay, lowing cows, newborn calves, sinuous cats, and the scent of freshly-drawn milk in pails, taught me as much about life as did any classroom in which I ever languished. 

It was in the barn loft that I learned how to cuss.  Lying on a stack of prickly hay bales, watching dust motes float down the sunbeams from roof to floor, and plotting my next adventure, I’d hear my dad bringing the cows in to be milked.  Invariably, especially in the evening, there was at least one that declined to obediently trot to the stanchion and wait for him to slide the trap against her neck.  Instead, she’d go a little wild, kicking and bellering, with my dad hot on her tail.  He was tired from a full day’s work and would have preferred the coolness of the house, his supper, and some peace and quiet.  But here was this ol’ heifer, intent upon vexing him in every way possible.  As he unleashed an incredibly creative string of expletives, swinging a sawed-off 2x4 in the air for emphasis, I couldn’t help feeling ever-so-slightly superior to him for just those few seconds because I instinctively knew that if he’d just give the old girl  time to settle down a bit it would work out much better for both of them.

True to stereotype, I learned how to smoke behind that barn.  The “cigarettes” were made from weeds wrapped around more weeds, but the Diamond matches cadged from next to Grandma’s stove were the real deal.  

I learned a little about life and death there, too.  Not all the kittens born in the loft survived.  And not all the baby calves brought in and penned up with their mothers lived. 

I learned that if you leave big spiders alone in their nests they’ll go about the business of eating flies and bugs and leave you to your snake-killin’, which was Grandma’s word for any and all endeavors.

I learned that baby mice are pretty cute, their parents not so much.  

I learned that if you hear your name being called but don’t answer right away, your mother will move on down the list to your sister.

I learned that I was a farm girl and my Detroit cousins weren't.  My cousin Katie became infamous for her plea while walking through the manure-filled cow lot after a rainstorm to "Get me outta this tow-tinkin' tuff!!"  

  

The barn still stands and has been repaired and rejuvenated, but the farm is no longer in the family.  The three farmers who made all the haying and milking and calving happen – my grandpa, my dad, and my brother – are gone.  But they, even more than that big old barn of my childhood, are part of my DNA and I will never forget what a gift they were to me.  The tears in my eyes and throat bear testament to how much I miss them.   

 My dad, a neighbor, my grandpa and me, filling the silage pit next to the barn.  

I was four years old.

Poor little girl from "The Grapes of Wrath."  The old Diamond T truck had seen its day long before I arrived, but honey, those high-water pants, suspenders, and headscarf make it look like we were contemporaries.  The Joads LIVE!!

 My friend Tish and me on a summer day.   

It's entirely possible I haven't spent a day quite as carefree since.

 Me, my little sister Rita, and my friend Tish, sitting on one of the barn's old beat-up gates.  I see lipstick, so I know we were fresh off a dress-up session in Grandma's attic ... 

but that's a story for another day!